Three things happened, then…

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  1. I read a tweet recommending the book Quiet . Its premise is that quiet people are less boring than their extrovert counterparts since they don’t blah blah blah so much
  2. I’m a proponent of conversations
  3. I went to dinner with someone and was bored

Here are some random thoughts on the updated definition of what constitutes a conversation that occurred to me at the intersection of these three instances:

  • We like texting and email because we don’t have to get involved in a conversation.  We have our say and that’s it. The same is true of voicemail. If you must use the phone, I bet you’d rather  leave your message without the inconvenience and time-eater of listening.  I have a friend who calls me and says,” I just wanted to hear your voice,” and I totally get that. That says more than making the talking noise, since we don’t always have something to say, but it’s still nice to connect.
  •  We like Twitter for the same reason, with the added brevity factor. And most importantly, we get to customize who we listen to. I learn something new daily because of the diverse people I follow. Much better than the “news” which is never really new, and always too long and too boring.
  • Everything is not debatable.  Sometimes you want to express your opinion, and someone else wants to express theirs, but debating it can be a  waste of time. For example, you hate hip hop and I like it.  We give our thoughts and move on. We’re unlikely to change each other’s mind.

Conversations today have to be very useful and/or entertaining and/or valuable to warrant a listen.